All along, several factors had tipped the scale in favor
of holding back our youngest. With a birthday of Aug. 18, he's just two weeks
shy of the age cutoff for kindergarten. We knew that boys with late-summer
birthdays often benefit from an extra year to mature. Then there's the biggest
one: he's Gus - bursting with energy.
Still, making this decision hasn't been easy for us.
Gus is incredibly bright in some areas, while he lags in others. He knows all the uppercase and lowercase letters cold and is doing a lot of pre-reading. His writing and fine motor skills do not match those of his peers, however. To make matters more complicated, looming large for Mark and me is the
regret we still feel for not having Ben tested to enter kindergarten early.
Doing so may have saved us the difficult choice to have him skip second grade.
Doubt plagued us. What if Gus turned out to be another Ben?
However, our conference with Gus's preschool teacher on
Tuesday night cemented it for us. She was in agreement with our thinking,
pointing out that it may well be pretty difficult for Gus to sit still all day
in kindergarten next fall. She reassured us that she'd held back her own son
and daughter, who have summer birthdays, and both she and her children were
happy with that choice.
The world of education has changed significantly since I
began elementary school. What is 4K now was my kindergarten. Kindergarten
standards have become much more rigorous. We don't want to send Gus into
something for which he's not prepared, and neither do we want to saddle a
teacher with a boy who's just not quite ready to be there.
As parents, we can never be 100 percent sure we're making
the right decisions for our kids. When it was Ben's time, we made a good-faith
choice that turned out to be the wrong one. In the end, though, Ben has managed
to thrive and maybe even build some character.
Each of my kids is different from the next. Since we can't predict the future, we'll proceed, as always, with great hope that
we're doing what's best.